a lesson in (im)patience

I lack patience. Hardcore. It's a severe character flaw, really. With everything in my life changing now, I'm impatient for it to just get started. I know once it happens though, I'm going to wish I could slow things back down. When Ryan and I first started dating, we made a commitment, and we agreed that we would not live together until we were married.

With our religious values, the military not recognizing me in any capacity and having a stable career on the East coast, it didn't make sense for us. Now that we're getting married though, I'm ready for this distance to be done. I sound like a broken record. I know. Not only that though, I'm ready to be married. Sometimes I'm not entirely convinced that I'm a girl because I've never wanted the big wedding...rather, I just want the marriage.

And so, I'm ridiculously impatient; for the wedding, for the  honeymoon, for the move (though I'd love to skip over the actual moving part, if that were possible). I know that good things come to those who wait. Heck, I even know that the best things are worth waiting for. It doesn't matter how many of the old adages you give me, I'm still going to be caught twiddling my fingers and sulking...waiting for time to pass.

I am trying, trying, trying to keep busy, and I know everyone keeps telling me that, yes, time is passing slowly now, but I'm going to wish it would slow down soon. I think my newfound insane impatience comes from the fact that the end is finally in sight. But f'reals. Does anybody have any advice on how to occupy myself and/or learn the art of patience? Because I, my friends, am failing miserably in that department.


^^^ If someone can teach me to take this to heart, I'll pay them in candy and hugs. 

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  1. I am impatient as well..I'm so excited for you and getting married. Just make sure you enjoy those things while they are happening. We got married in 2011 and I'm still scratching my head wondering where the last 2 years went!

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    1. I'm worried that I'm so impatient that I'll forget to enjoy the moments! Thank you for the reminder, doll!

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  2. I'm impatient for your wedding too, I can't wait to see pictures! I love wedding posts!

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    1. I can't wait either! Haha I'm just SO ready!

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  3. I identify with this post a lot! The hubs and I never lived together before we were married and we also were moving once we did get married. He got a job in a different town so he had to go on 2 months early and i was just kinda waiting for October 20 so i could move too. It was kind of an awkward time b/c we hadn't moved our new furniture in, he was sleeping on an airmattress b/c it was important to us to set up our new home TOGETHER...so..it was just a very surreal strange experience.

    I tend to get very nervous about things so it was SO important for me to occupy my time. I had just graduated grad school and taken a job in a town close to where we would be living, but also pretty far from the town i was living till the wedding..SOOO i couldn't start my new job till after the wedding and I had nothing but time and so i completely get where you are coming from.

    I worked out A LOT! I ate lunch with friends. I had dinner dates with friends. I slowly packed up my belongings in an ORGANIZED way. I wrote, read, and anything else i could do to keep my mind off things. I put last minute touches on wedding plans and honestly I just tried to enjoy the ride because it will all be over so FAST! Looking back, im so grateful for that time. It was such an emotional experience and having a little bit of time to reflect on what was happening helped me tremendously!

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    1. Ashley, I'm pretty sure you're my soul sister. I'm doing my very best to spend some quality time with all my friends, blogging, having fun with little wedding details and beginning to pack because I know it will be insanity in the end. Thank you for putting it all into perspective for me, doll xo

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  4. My husband and I were in the same situation before we got married. He moved for his job in May before we got married at the end of July. Even doing long-distance for two months was tough, especially with the high-stress time of wedding/marriage planning. Looking back, I wish I would have appreciated being so close to my friends and took advantage of the time I had instead of wishing away the days. You'll be home from your honeymoon and living in a new place before you know it.

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  5. it is so easy to get caught up in what's to come that we forget to just be in the present. try to enjoy your time before all the changes happen, even if they are changes for the better :) !

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  6. You really hit the nail on the head... you don't want the big wedding, you want to be MARRIED. I believe that will take your relationship so far. Not that there's anything wrong with having a big wedding, but it's great that you recognize MARRIAGE is what it's all about. I'm awful with patience too, and I know how frustrating that can be. My boyfriend and I do live together and I can't imagine how antsy I would be if we didn't! Hang in there, you're in the homestretch! :)

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