stressing and stressors

As much as I hate to admit, I'm starting to get very, very stressed.
Don't get me wrong...
I'm more than excited to be married in less than three weeks, 
but there is just so much to do still, 
and it seems like when I think things are finally falling into place, something throws a wrench in the plans.

Case and point?
I'm having a grand total of 19 guests at my wedding.
Two of those guests were from my former crossfit gym and the best of friends...
until two days ago, that is.

Now these two friends are refusing to speak to one another or sit together at the wedding.
I won't go into what happened between them because it disgusts me,
but now, one of them has told me (after everything is paid for, mind you), 
that she no longer wants to come to my wedding if the other one is attending.
Thank you for informing me of this 18 days before my wedding.

Does anyone know how to handle something like that?
Because honestly...I'm just at a loss because I was not even involved in the mess.

Yesterday, Ryan was informed by housing on post that the wait time is now between 6-8 weeks.
That means we either wait 6-8 weeks until I move out there when we have our on-post housing,
I move out there and we continue living with his roommate off-post until housing becomes available,
or we choose to live off post, 
which we don't want to do for safety reasons while he's off training.

I know that everything will work out in the end.
Trust me, I do.
All I want is to spend a perfect holiday with my family and my almost-husband,
then marry him in a sweet, simply, drama-free day,
and I know that it will happen.

I just wish that these little curveballs would stop.
None of it is going to deter me from marrying the love of my life,
but I can tell you with complete certainty that I'm definitely getting more stressed by the day.
Any tips on how to unwind and de-stress?

On a very positive note though,
Ryan arrives in Boston on Friday for Christmas, New Year's, our wedding and our honeymoon!
That makes up for the stress, at least :)

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  1. I'm sorry that things are making your wedding stressful. As long as you will be married to your love at the end of the day that's all that matters!

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    1. It's not even the wedding that's stressful - it's just the stupid curveballs. I just want a simple wedding :) that's it.

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  2. Wow I am so sorry all of this is happening to you so close to your wedding. As for your friends it is your wedding and if they choose not to be apart of it then you need to breathe and focus on your soon to be husband. When it comes down to it the day is entirely about the two of you so as long as you two are there that is all that matters. Keep your chin up, your wedding will be amazing!

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    1. Thanks, doll! I feel like SUCH a complainer...I just got so frustrated and overwhelmed by THEIR mess, you know?

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  3. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I feel like it is extremely childish that they can't put their feelings away for you special day!

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    1. Amen, sister! They're 26 and 28 years old...we're not in high school anymore.

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  4. We had similar issues with ex's dating each others ex's. What? And then we had about 25 people RSVP and not show up, not even tell us. If you can, contact your caterer. Otherwise, they usually try to consider things like that. You may be out of some money, but you have bigger things to worry about that someone being petty. You could try to casually say their seat is paid for and ask if they could sit somewhere else. That way they know their pish posh is affecting you too.

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    1. You're right. Oooof one of these girls is my roommate, and I love her to death, but seriously?! Get it together, lady!

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  5. ahh I am so sorry these things are happening! But just remember.. no one else matters but you and Ryan! These things happen, and you have to do your best to let them work themselves out and enjoy your day with your man! I hope things get easier for you! Good luck!

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    1. Ooof you're right, Kassy. I'm just letting their stupid drama get to me. I just want to be married!

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  6. Sorry to see your going through this, wedding can be overwhelming and they are not helping. That's so childish of them they need to realize that it's not about them it's about you, it's not fare that they are making you choose. Its your special day they need to respect that. If they cant be civilized and both come to the wedding and ignore each other then they shouldn't go at all. Let them know that you won't choose and leave it up to them, if they don't come then that's one less stress off your chest. Focus on yourself and your future husband :).

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    1. Thanks for putting that in't perspective, girl. I actually spoke with my roommate about it, and she's fine - she can be an adult about this. The other girl, however, clearly can't

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  7. SO sorry for all the stressors... and that is just terrible about your friends. However, remember it is YOUR day, so don't make anything, not even your stress, about other people! Hang in there and try not to let anyone or anything bring you down, this is your magical day, and I'm sure it will be fabulous!!

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  8. hold the phone.... the chick legit won't attend a wedding because of a petty fight. who does that?! also, would living with his roomie be that bad for a few weeks? means you get to see him sooner than having to wait it out.

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  9. I am so sorry you are having to go thru this!! It just goes to show that no mattee how small the group, there is always a potential for problems. If it were me I would say grow the f*!@ up and quit being so selfish, but also at the same tome of they are choosing their drama over your wedding then they aren't very good friends. I had two so-called friends not show up to my wedding without any notice and I reevaluated those friendships after they decided to blow off the most important day of my life. Don't let it ruin your day!

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  10. There was a bit of drama at my small wedding too. Totally blindsided me and I couldn't have prepared for it even if I had wanted to. I let it get to me and didn't enjoy my reception as much as I should have. Trust me, I KNOW it's hard, but focus on Ryan and making it one of the best days of your life. That housing stuff will all work out. It always does. Remember to enjoy all this wedding preparation time!

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  11. So sorry you are having to deal with their drama. I would suggest talking to each one and telling them both that you are having a small wedding, you would like them both to attend and if they can't put aside their differences for one day for the sake of your wedding than they are more than welcome not to attend, as much as you want them to be there you understand. If they can't be adults about it and put it aside for a few hours consider yourself lucky they won't be there.

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  12. SO sorry you have to go through this! I've had another friend go through it before and she told the one who said that ''she wasnt coming if the other girl came" that she didn't have to come then. If she was going to put this fight over her wedding, she didn't want her there anyways. I hope you can figure this all out! It's very inconsiderate of your friends to put you in this position. Good luck!!
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  13. Ugh. Why must people be so petty? I mean, really... you can't hold your shit together and act like an adult for one night? One of the most IMPORTANT nights of your close friends' life?

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  14. unbelievable! i'm pretty sure every wedding has there own version of drama, just keep in mind this day is ABOUT YOU and RYAN and try not to get upset or bothered by someone who is clearly not thinking about you! I'm so sorry girl.

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  15. Everything is going to turn out great!! Just let everyone else deal with their bull, and you enjoy your time! :)

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