stereotypes of the military wife

I've lived on post at Fort Huachuca for a grand total of 2 weeks now. 
Two weeks and one day, actually,
and let me just tell you...there are so. many. stereotypes. about Army wives!
Well, I'm sure any military wives, for that matter.
But, seriously, holy hell...it's pretty insane the things that are said about us.

Yesterday, a snarky man at the supermarket off post 
asked why I had organic ingredients and grass-fed beef in my basket,
which the commissary didn't have the other day.
Before I could answer, he told me that dependapotamus women usually didn't eat healthy.

When I googled that term, this is what I found:

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Yeah, it's pretty horrendous, if you ask me.
Here's the thing:
I'm new to the whole Army wife thing, but I will tell you that we shoulder a lot of the burden for our spouses.
We get a bad rap from a lot of people because a lot of our lives are on the government's dime,
but we do it at a great cost, for the most part.

It amazes me that there's so much judgment directed towards military wives.
I kind of get why we're generally a tight-knit group now.

Regardless though, I refuse to fall into any sort of stereotype that people set for us.
Ryan and I signed up for an 8k on post this coming Saturday, in which we'll probably die,
but we're going to try our best!
We've kept up juicing, but we've added in a few proteins,
and we're feeling like lean, mean, fighting machines.

Bring it on, stereotypes!



23 comments

  1. I think it's slightly sad that a lot of the stereotypes of military wives are based on reality. However, most of us are not nearly as bad as the 'bad rep' we're given!

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    1. Oh, I hear you. I mean, don't get me wrong, I see a lot of *that* here, but it's not the same for everyone, and it's sad that so many people think that's all we are.

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  2. That is so sad that there is a stereotype. I was on a military base in Germany and I did see the same sort of judgement. I can't imagine it is easy for the wives to pick up and move as many times as the military dictates. I think all you can do is be you and make your own type!

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    1. Amen, girl :) I like the way you think!

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  3. Weird. Very weird. I haven't been around military culture too much, although my brother-in-law just finished his 4 years in the Navy. I feel like there's stereotypes of everything--based on your religion, race, what country you live in--and while there's usually some kind of reason why the stereotypes are developed in the first place, I think that in the vast majority of cases they aren't true at all!

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    1. You're very right, Rachel. I guess it's just frustrating to hear the ignorance out of some of my friends' mouths, too, you know?

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  4. I can't believe someone actually said that to you... my gosh, is there no respect for others in this world? Wow... I just cannot believe that.

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  5. maybe don't give up the bacon detector stereotype ;)

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  6. I've never heard the term 'dependapotamus' before, but that graphic is pretty sick. I guess I've been pretty fortunate because in the 17+ years I've been doing the Army wife thing, I've yet to hear a disparaging comment. It's too bad that people think it's okay to say things like that.

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  7. That is absolutely horrendous. And it breaks my heart. I can only imagine a world where we build each other up instead of putting one another down. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Kill him with kindness and prove him wrong, over and over again!

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  8. Gosh, that is a terrible stereotype and worse that he thought it was ok to say that to you! Clearly you're not a dependapotamus so keep you head high and keep proving them wrong. :)

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  9. Isn't it terrible? I guess I live in my own little happy place because in my head, being a military wife is a completely awesome job! Not sure why all the hate- I bet if we asked the people who were judging, they wouldn't want to trade places with us!

    XOXO
    Chelsea
    http://www.anchorsaweighblog.com/

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  10. Oh my gosh girl, that is beyond disrespectful and ignorant of that man. Seriously. What your hubby does for our country should always be commended. No matter what. Props to him and props to you. Keep your head up girlie and dang y'all have been juicing for a long time...how is it?!! Post some recipes?! Xx.

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  11. OMG I can't get over how obnoxious that man was! How dare he, ugh this makes me sick! You and your husband are doing a great service for our country, and I truly appreciate it!

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  12. Ya know, it's one way or the other. You either have the people that are angry/jealous/scornful to you for being a military spouse, lumping us all into the same category of the dependapotamus, or the ones that insist on pitying and feeling bad for you for constantly "being alone". there's a lot of days where it doesn't feel like we can win, but at the same time you know that there's a ton of spouses out there that work just as hard as their counterparts at whatever they do, that don't sit back content with being completely dependent. You just have to ignore the crap and know that you're being an awesome wife and living life as you want to, and let those that have extreme opinions worry about them on their own time. Btw how's everything going out there?

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    1. It's seriously insane. It's definitely disheartening at times, but then again, I really don't care what they think! I work my butt off, as does my husband, and we take advantage of the few perks the Army gives us...nothing wrong with that! We're adjusting to Ryan doing nights for the next month right now, but we're really enjoying being newlyweds and living here for the year!

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  13. Holy cow. I had no idea that people thought that way about military wives!!!!!! That's horrible!!!

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  14. Whoa. What the heck. I haven't heard of that either, but I have heard that I have plenty of time to cook dinner because my husband is an Officer. Still looking for the connection there... I'm also supposed to be pretty stuck up. Isn't it amazing what things people can make up?

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  15. Oh the stereotypes...I mean I have met many woman that play into the whole "army wife" thing. But to think that everyone is like that is just crazy! And to be honest a lot of stereotypes come from the wives themselves.

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  16. You are right. There are so many stereotypes against us and for the most part they are entirely false! Except I have met a few that fit a lot of these which is sad but it's just who they are. Non military spouses all have these things too so I don't get why we are slammed with these.

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  17. Wow! That's crazy. I was warned by a few military wives to stay away from the drama-filled facebook groups, but I hadn't heard about crazy stereotypes. I hope you do well on your run Saturday!

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  18. Oh my goodness. I can't believe that someone actually said this to you. It is a little ridiculous what people think we should be like. Just keep being you, and you will figure out how to be the best Army wife you can be/need to be.

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