things nobody told me about motherhood

I swear motherhood is the most insane, trying, emotional, beautiful and exciting adventure of my life. People tell you certain things, but I'm convinced they purposely forget to tell you others, as well. For example, nobody tells you that you really can love someone so much that it can actually physically ache and hurt when your child cries and you can't figure out the cause. Truth, my friends. It happens.


Nobody tells you that everyone and their mother will have an opinion on how you should crib train, feed, bathe, change, lotion, introduce your child to public (and so on and so forth). There are people who will judge you for taking your child out in public prior to him reaching 6 weeks old. For the record, my son's been pretty darn healthy! So there!

Nobody tells you that babies are like the world's best ice-breaker. Everyone wants to see the cute little nugget under the hood of the carriage that's snoozing away.

Nobody tells you that sleep begets sleep. I've been told everything about sleep-training, and the one thing that stuck is that if Spencer is too tired, he can't sleep. And so, I let him nap. If he's screaming and wants a nap, by all means, sleep little man! It works…we're down to 1 wakeup early in the morning to nurse now.

Nobody tells you how much your heart can grow…or that baby fever will strike again as you pack away those newborn clothes. It's true.

Nobody tells you that breastfed babies have stinky poos, too. That's right, friends. Everyone said their poos don't stink. False. My son has some pretty nasty farts, and those poos? Yeah, if they've been boiling in his guts a while, they are ripe

Nobody tells you that you'll love your husband or partner more than ever. Watching my husband with my son makes my heart swell with pride and love for him. He gave me the most beautiful (handsome), perfect son, and that's the best gift ever.

Nobody tells you that you're going to leak all over when you hear other babies cry. Yes, it happens.


Nobody tells you how much Omas and grandmas help. From advise to listening to just showing you that there really is a light at the end of that sleep-deprived tunnel, it's the most beautiful thing in the world. 

Nobody tells you that you'll truly begin to decipher your child's cries. Spencer has a whiny cry, a gassy cry, an "I'm faking it for attention" cry and his super-distressed exhausted cry. It's hard because they sometimes combine, but no child will have the same cries.

Nobody tells you what a guessing-game parenting is. Your baby has bad gas? Figure out what might be wrong in your diet. Baby doesn't want to sleep at night? Figure out if he's overtired, gassy, fussy, teething, cold, etc. It's trial and error, and there really is no one-size-fits-all solution.

I love parenting. It's exhausting and trying, but I'm getting a hang of it, and I love my little man and my family more every single day :)


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  1. This is beyond precious AND comforting! I'm expecting my first and I'm 38 weeks. I'm starting to feel frantic, nervous, anxious, emotional, overjoyed and everything in between. It's a mix between "Holy crap can I do this?" and "Oh my gosh I can't wait to do this my heart could burst!".

    Your little man is just adorable and I love that you love being a mother so much that your heart aches. For that reason alone you make an amazing mama to a blessed little boy.

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    1. Oh, I'm so excited for you, sweets! It's such an amazing adventure. I think we all go through those nerves, too. It's worth it! You'll LOVE it :)

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  2. Yes to all of this! You're a wonderful mama and doing a fantastic job with that sweet boy. Keep up the great work! And yes... Breastfed babies poop does stink!

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    1. Thanks, sweets! I'm so glad someone else thinks their breastfed baby's poo smells, too haha my mom swears it doesn't, but oh my gosh…it does!

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  3. I so appreciate posts like this for the day that I do finally become a mom! Good read:)

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    1. Thanks, doll! I'm no expert haha but there are definitely things I wish people HAD told me!

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  4. YES to all of this! Such a great post! I return to work this Monday and my heart aches at the thought of not being with her all day. Motherhood is exactly how you wrote. It's trial and error, sheer exhaustion, joy unspeakable, and the most intense love ever. Your little man is so cute in that bow tie!

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  5. I'm not a mom, but I have heard moms I know say these exact words :) I honestly never knew how judgmental other people were to new moms until I read my friend's blog post on it. I was surprised and shocked at how rude people were to her for the slightest "errors."

    Good luck to you and thanks for sharing your story about motherhood (so far).

    xo Azu

    www.raven-locks.blogspot.com

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  6. Great post; thanks for sharing! You've got a beautiful family!

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  7. I just cried- no really *wipes tear*

    This was fabulous and ph so true I'm sure! He is such a doll and thank you for posting! Happy weekend! xoxo

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