the days keep ticking

I feel like in the Army, we live and die by countdowns. We're counting the days to a PCS, to the end of a TDY, to the end of a deployment...if it's not one countdown, it's another. And yes, I'm living entirely on this countdown right now. I had my first big meltdown yesterday morning when I got to daycare to drop off the boys. I forgot that Porter needed 3 changes of onesies, and Spencer needed house shoes. That meant I had to go buy some and bring them back - just to prevent having to drive the whole way home.

While I sat there in the car, I literally sulked and cried for a good 30 minutes, trying not to cry in the actual store, wondering how in the heck I'm going to make it 9+/- months without my other half. When I think of it in terms of days, it seems insurmountable. When I think of it in terms of landmarks, it seems slightly more feasible.

And so, that's what I'm going to have to do; plan something every single month to have to look forward to.

This month my FRG co-leader, Amy, and I are throwing a Valentine's party for the spouses and kiddos left behind here at Drum. It won't be anything too elaborate, but here are some of our ideas:

images via here, here and here.

That, alone, should make for a fun planning process, at least, and I'm really grateful for the opportunity to stay pretty darn busy because I won't stop and think about how lonely it is without Ryan around. 

For March, I'm thinking seriously about signing up for the Old Orchard Beach half marathon in Maine. It's a super cheap entry because it's the first time they're running it (pun intended) - just $45 with a tech shirt - and it would really give me a reason to train hard. I'm by no means ready to do a half marathon, but it would give me that landmark to aim for in this deployment.

Danny and I have been running pretty consistently, thankfully, and I think this might be just the ticket...but who knows? We do have the Ocean City half at the end of April, so it's really March that for which we need a landmark, so I'm reaching here...

What sort of ideas do you have to keep busy when your significant other or best friend is away? I'm always looking for something more to do.

I'm linking up today with Jessi for What's Hap-pinning Wednesday!


  1. When Kyle deployed for the first time I was working full time and that helped tremendously. The second time I was really involved with the FRG and that was a lifesaver. The party you are planning sounds like a wonderful idea, ok sure everyone will love it! :)

  2. The Valentines party should be super cute and way to go on the marathon! I've never done one but the training and conditioning should def keep you busy! So sorry to hear about the daycare fiasco - too bad we don't live closer and I'd step right in! Hang in there Mama! Thinking about you! Have a great day! xo

  3. Your party sounds like the perfect thing to keep yourself busy with something fun to look forward to!

  4. The party will be super fun! I saw those little wafer treats on pinterest and think they are just the sweetest. So sorry about the daycare mishap, but you handled it like a champ! I think planning something - even something small each month will be really helpful. Whenever hubs is away, I always try to find time to surround myself with friends and/or family and it makes it way more fun. I can't wait to see what you do for the party! It will be fun to get the kids together!

  5. I think it's important to stay busy and surround yourself with other loved ones. A spa day once in a while doesn't hurt either! Your Valentine's party sounds like a great idea. Thinking of you!

  6. Girl! Our first deployment I went SKY DIVING! Ha! But I didn't have kids yet sooooo that makes a difference. I know it seems so daunting to have nine months in front of you, but you WILL make it. And it might suck. Ahem... it will definitely suck at times. But you should totally do as much fun stuff as you can, for you and for your kids. Sending hugs!

  7. Oh my. I am so sorry that your husband still has 9 months of deployment left. It is torture. Does he get a 2 week break in there? My dad did, but I am not sure if it is common. I really hope he does. Love the idea of doing something fun each month to help pass the time.