know your worth

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It's been an interested few days here in the Moore household. On Monday, I found out from the company I've been with for five years that I was passed over for a significant promotion. The role I was vying for didn't exist, and I've pushed towards it for the past two years. My boss informed me on Monday that the role was, indeed, created. However, it's being given to a girl three years my junior in the company. Meaning, I trained her when she entered the business.

Now, here's the thing. I'm actually happy for the girl. Truly, I am. She works hard, and she deserves recognition. What bugs me is that the role was created without mentioning it to the rest of us in the same position, so we never had a chance to get it. It was underhanded, sneaky, and behind-the-back. Honestly, it leaves me with my confidence shaken.

I've been trying to find a new job for a while now. I've been searching, but I've also been somewhat complacent, knowing I have a job in the interim, however frustrating it might be. I'm now actively searching though, and it's a scary thought to be eight years into my career path and suddenly searching to start all over somewhere new.

Add in the fact that I'm an Army wife and require fully remote opportunities, and it's especially daunting.

I've been sulking and feeling sorry for myself the last couple days. Coupled by the hanger of our current keto challenge, this has been more unbearable than it really has to be. I have options. I do. It may take a while, but I trust that I'll find something better. But here's the thing. When someone does something that shakes your belief in yourself, it leaves a little mark, and it's uncomfortable. I was doing some reading last night, and one thing really stood out to me.

You are not defined by someone else's opinion of you.

Just because the door closed for growth within a company to which I've remained loyal for the past five years, doesn't mean I won't find a better option. I've been dedicating a lot of time and energy to freelance work lately to boost my portfolio. I have had successful reviews from these freelance clients, and it leads me to believe and trust that I can, and I will do more.

So, rather than sitting on my butt and feeling sorry for myself another day, I'm turning this ship around. Rather than focusing on what the company has done to me, I'm working towards better options. Instead of dedicating extra time and energy to the company that won't promote me, I'm dedicating that time to finding a company that will. I'll get my frustration out in the gym. I'll get stuff done around the house, and I'll lean on my loving family for support.

Note to self - I'm going to make you so damn proud.


  1. I'm so sorry that happened to you, but you are absolutely doing the right thing. A company that doesn't recognize your value or respect you enough to keep you in the loop is a company that doesn't deserve you. I hope you find your perfect fit!

  2. I hate to be negative to but ew- that's never easy. LOVE the last sentence and I fully believe in that statement! Thinking about y'all! Have a great rest of the week! xo

  3. "You are not defined by someone else's opinion of you." YES! I have had to learn this lesson in the past with different people. And it's hard, especially when you CARE about people's perception of you. But in the end, you can't make everyone happy, and the most important one is yourself first and foremost, and then those you hold in high regard.
    I'm sorry that this happened to you, but I do have faith that the right thing will come along and it will work out. Maybe not this time, but it will. And I think you can be proud of yourself for getting through it the way that you have.

  4. I love your light! I love what you took away from this experience and while I know it stings, you will come out winning because you a winner and an asset to this world. The RIGHT company just needs to find you and they’ll be darn lucky they did! xo

  5. Oh, I am so sorry to hear about the situation at work. That sounds so frustrating and disappointing. You have a great attitude though - I know you'll find a great fit with a company that values you.

  6. I'm so sorry to hear that but you definitely have the right attitude to move forward. It's tough when someone (your manager or boss) that you confided in feels the need to go behind your back and not let you know of that opportunity when you had clearly expressed the interest. xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

  7. I'm sorry to hear about what happened but you said it perfect! You are not defined by someone else's opinion! You are better than my friend.

  8. I'm sorry to hear about what happened, but glad you're not letting it take you down a spiral. Stay positive! On another note, I have a friend who runs a recruiting company geared for women who are military spouses and diplomat spouses if you're interested!