why i deleted facebook from my phone

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Last week, I made the decision to delete the Facebook app from my phone, and I have to say it's one of the best decisions I've made recently. Shockingly, no, my decision had nothing to do with the recent data mining/leaks from Facebook. Rather, I deleted the app from my phone because I found that it was becoming too much of a time-suck. I've mentioned a lot lately about Ryan and I are trying to clean up our lives. We're working hard to de-stress, minimize excess, and really focus on the here and now. If there's one thing that works to pull us from that goal, it's technology.

I work in marketing, so my phone is my best friend in terms of my job. Nearly 60% of my work relies on mobile interaction, which is amazing, but it's also a trap. It's so easy to get caught up in technology and forget to live in the present. Ryan remarked on more than one occasion how often I was scrolling mindlessly through Facebook. And here's the thing...I didn't even really have a reason for doing so. I just did because it was there and because I could. 


I'm sure you've all seen the articles floating around about how millennials spend all their time on their phones. I'm not really a millennial, but I'll totally attest to how true it is. Your phone is so easily accessible at all times of the day, and there are too many moments where I was caught up in some utterly useless Facebook post when I should have been spending time with my kiddos. Luckily, there was a simple solution. I deleted the app from my phone. I did not delete my account, but I deleted my easy access to it, so I'm far less inclined to veg out and look at my phone.

Look, I rely heavily on my phone for pictures. I use it for Instagram, and I love recording moments with my kids. I don't, however, like missing moments with my kids because I'm too wrapped up in an app that pulls me from the present. Deleting this app doesn't make me a hero. Honestly, it's a tiny, minuscule step in the right direction, but that's just it. It's a step in the right direction.

Since deleting the Facebook app, I'm less inclined to look at my phone before bed. I'm less inclined to pull out my phone while playing with my children. I'm less inclined to be completely and utterly distracted all the time. It's so easy to get caught up in the likes and the instant gratification of Facebook. Each "like" is virtual approval, and it's easy to use those to justify a means to an end. I'm a momma of two little boys. The approval I need is from them, from myself, and from my husband. It's from a day well-spent.

Do I foresee myself deleting Instagram? No. I like it. I enjoy sharing pictures and little stories. I don't spend hours on Instagram, and if I do spend time on there, I find it much more uplifting than Facebook. I don't have Snapchat, and I won't be getting it - simply because it's unnecessary. The goal is to lessen distractions and boost presence in real life. I'm a work in progress. Heck, Ryan and I are both works in progress, but I think this was a great first step for me, and I'm so glad I did it.

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  1. I deleted FB from my phone a while ago (maybe a year now) for exactly the reasons you talk about. And I haven't logged in from my computer in months either. I do still have Instagram (love!) but try not to get too caught up in mindless scrolling there also. It's so crazy how easy it is to get sucked into this app, and miss what is going on around us. I wish there were more things that could help people moderate phone usage!!

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    1. I think there are actually ways to moderate phone usage, BUT a lot of them require another app. It's an insane balancing act, and it's something that scares me as a momma for my children!

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  2. I've done this quite a few times. When I feel like the negativity on FB is just too much or if I find myself on FB too much, I just delete it from my phone and it cuts the time I spend scrolling in half! I deleted snapchat months ago and I don't miss it one bit. Totally useless especially since instagram has stories. I'm the same with IG. I like it, it's way less negative, and I spend less time on it.

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    1. I feel like FB, in general, is a pretty negative space, all things considered. It's become a platform for approval, and I don't think that's why any of us initially signed up for it. I use it to connect with my family in South Africa, but for the most part, it's a time suck!

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  3. WAY to GO! (now to get my hubby to do the same) haha

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  4. I am sooo proud of you. I have never and will never have a FB. I see ladies so sucked in and threw us no time for drama or negativity in my life. I love lil tidbits on Twitter and probably should get an Insta but again it’s the time thing, don’t want it to take more time away from the really important things.

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  5. I have thought about deleting my FB for the same reasons. I am on it way too much. But I use IG more. My girls browse IG with me in the mornings and they love seeing my friends babies. But we always say we need to put our phones down more and enjoy things. But I also want to record my kids more. Double edge sword. But I am definitely thinking of getting rid of FB all together with the data breach.

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  6. I still have Facebook on my phone, but turned off notifications. Even that made a huge difference in decreasing the amount of time I'm scrolling through it!

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  7. If I didn’t need to have it for my clients, I would totally delete FB from my phone - but oddly enough, I don’t really use it personally very often as I know how easy it is to get sucked in and spend so much time on there - but maybe it’s because so much of my work involves social media!

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  8. While I'm not Catholic, I gave up all social media for Lent and actually really enjoyed it! I've since downloaded IG back on my phone but I have the notifications turned off.

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  9. You go girl! I'd like to say I could do the same, but since I run my Rodan + Fields business primarily through social media, I'll likely never give up FB. It's also been so great for me with our moves and keeping in touch with friends all over the place. I'm proud of you for making the decision that's best for you. See you on Instagram😉XOXO

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  10. So smart! I use the Realizd app and set a goal to be on my phone less than 3 hours a day. Which seems crazy, but it adds up and when I started sometimes I was up to 4-5 hours!!!

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