guest post from brianna: long-distance relationships

Hello lovely Loving Life Moore readers! My name is Brianna and I blog over at Endlessly Beloved. When I saw that Melissa was looking for some guest posts on love and relationships, I was so excited! I absolutely adore Melissa and her blog, and love just happens to be my favorite topic! My blog is basically all about my long distance relationship with my handsome man who is in the United States Air Force. Even when I talk about other things, it always somehow comes back to him! I guess that’s what happens when you’re in love, right? Everything reminds me of him.

Here’s a little background story: 

Handsome and I have know each other our whole lives. Our moms have been friends since before I was born (his mom was one of the first few people to ever hold me!). So when we were young, we always used to play together. He still teases me about the fact that I never shared my little red cash register (how he remembers this is beyond me!) 

So that’s us when we were little. Models- I know. 

Anyway, once we got old enough to make our own friends we pretty much didn’t see each other anymore. Now fast forward about ten years. Last year I was doing some Facebook stalking, and I came across his Facebook page. The first thing I thought was “Wow! Dj got hot.” So of course I added him. He messaged me, we talked all night, and it’s been that way ever since. It’s been over a year now, and I’m absolutely going to spend the rest of my life with him! 

So, he’s in the military and when we reconnected he was living in Germany. When he came home, we really hit things off and we became a couple. Last summer I also got to visit him in Germany, and it was the most amazing experience of my life! I must say, it’s been a pretty perfect year, and I can’t wait to spend my life with this man.

Now he lives in Montana, and I’m in Arizona. Doing the long distance thing can be pretty tough sometimes, but we’ve gotten pretty good at it. 

So now that I’ve talked about myself way more than I should’ve, I wanted to share some tips for those of you also in long distance relationships!

Communication and trust are key. Obviously if you’re going to be away from the person you’re in a relationship with, you have to trust them. Establishing a trust from the very beginning is one of the most important things in any relationship. If you don’t trust him, being away from him is going to be that much harder. It’s also really important to communicate. Whether you have concerns or you’re happier than ever, make you sure always tell your loved one. When you’re not there to show them every day how much you love them, its important to always remind them!

Do things for each other. Just because you’re not together doesn’t mean you can’t still do things for your loved one. Whether it’s writing them a love letter, sending them a care package, or having flowers/cupcakes/gifts delivered, it’s always a nice way to show your loved one that you’re thinking about him or her.

Utilize technology. I don’t how what I would do without all of the amazing apps and things we have today! When Handsome was in Germany, we couldn’t text or call each other because international rates are crazy! Fortunately, we found ways around it. Viber is an amazing app that lets you call any number for free (even international ones). Couple is another app we love. It’s meant for couples (hence the name Couple) and it’s really great. You can share photos, make to-do lists, and add important dates so he won’t forget your anniversary! 😉 We also Skype a lot. There’s so many ways to stay connected- so utilize that! It makes the time away so much easier.

Have a good support system. Surround yourself with friends and family that understand your situation and are supportive. Keep yourself busy, and make sure you always have someone there when you’re feeling down!

The most important thing to do when you’re away from someone you love is to stay positive. I always try to remember that all of the waiting will be worth it the second I get to be in Handsome’s arms again! 

Please feel free to visit my blog and say hello! I love meeting other bloggers, especially those in situations similar to mine!!!

With endless love,